What You’re Not Seeing

8:03 a.m. Saturday

The first tenuous glow of morning light creeps into the bedroom. Lighting the walls from darkest blue to grey. Revealing the small tidy bedroom I share with Keith, where at the foot of the bed sits: nothing. There are no ice axes propped against the closet, nor backpacks packed and sitting ready to be scooped up at the first blare of an early alarm clock. The emptiness is a promise of calm. Outside a cool, rainy day is blooming into being while I luxuriate in the idea of having nowhere to be. Nothing on the agenda other than the chores that help adult life chug slowly forward.

“In the age of internet over-sharing I have fallen prey to the idea that we must constantly be documenting and sharing in an effort to convince internet strangers that I lead an epic life.”

I have been slow to appreciate these weekends spent indoors. Guilty of the self imposed need to fling myself forward at full speed, never ceasing until illness, injury, or burnout bring me careening to an inelegant forced halt. It has taken time to embrace days spent caring for, or rather about, the less share-worthy aspects of life. In the age of internet over-sharing I have fallen prey to the idea that we must constantly be documenting and sharing in an effort to convince internet strangers that I lead an epic life.

Yet I am growing, learning that there is a sort of gentle joy to be found in moderation and silence. That in caring for things beyond the outdoors I can collect more happiness in my daily life. A novel contrast to the previous two years where preparing for and completing my thru hike of the PCT consumed so much of my attention. To have reached Canada and be released from that singular consuming goal feels like being moved to the passenger seat. Where, without the need to keep my eyes on the road I am free to look around at all of the things I have been missing.

This morning I will drink coffee in bed while reading. I will make breakfast for Keith and myself taking the available time to cook the kinds of foods you can’t eat on the trail. A cheesy omelet with sauteed peppers. Chocolate chip pancakes with strawberry jam on top. While I cook I listen to Vanessa and Casper of Harry Potter and the Sacred Text discussing expectations. I delete Instagram off my phone, thus removing any expectation I might place on myself to share, tell, post my life for the benefits of others. Thus removing my own expectations to be good at social media.

11:47 a.m Sunday

I am sprinting after a rubber ball in the rain. My lungs are burning and I know my legs will be inconsolably sore tomorrow after having abandoned any attempt to take it easy as I learn this new game. Gaelic Football, a confusing mess of a sport akin to soccer, basketball, and rugby all rolled into one. But fun, undeniably fun. The delight I take in team sports is being rekindled after such a long absence. Saying yes to thru hiking meant saying no to a great many other things. Because you just can’t have it all. At least not all at the same time. The longer I live on this twirling blue rock the less I am even inclined to try.

Monday 8:17am

 During the bus ride to work I am scrolling through the newly re-installed Instagram. Comparing hashtags and looking at the success of my last few posts. I am debating captions and filters when a little voice in my head reminds me that I don’t have to do this. The outdoor industry as it is portrayed on the internet is not a club I necessarily want to be a part of any more. As I slide past the billionth picture of a thin, conventionally attractive, white person standing with their back to the camera as they look at a mountain peak with a caption about following your dreams I almost throw my phone out the damn window. Luckily they seal bus windows to prevent these exact morning existential rage meltdowns.

The further I scroll the more the images look the same. Each post about sending it. Crushing it. Conquering a climb. Being stoked. Living the dream. Epic to the max. Type 2  suffer-fest fun. Beautiful people in beautiful places saying nothing much at all.

On the internet the outdoors is for escapism, not activism. Full of people who quickly become defensive at any political comment or critique that the community could do with a little diversifying. I cannot begin to recount the number of times I have heard a fellow white person say “I’m not here to discuss politics, I’m here to escape it!” And while we are all entitled to take space away from the quagmire of political vitriol, I find that those who are the safest in our society are those who can best afford to check out and get out. Both emotionally and financially.

And here I have a choice. And so do you.

I can continue to post image after image of the beautiful images I have been privileged enough to visit, toss in an inspirational caption about freedom, maybe a questionable quote from Edward Abbey. I can continue to portray the outdoors community as white, able, thin, and wealthy, continue to consume media from accounts and brands who do the same. Or, I can make a different choice. The reality of which, isn’t much of a choice. Because hard choices come when you have something to lose. Sure, I want people to read what I write and I want them to like the pictures I take but it’s not the end of the world if they don’t. I’d rather be honest and unpopular than promote an ideal I don’t think is helpful.

“…if you don’t know something, you can’t love it. And you won’t bother saving something you don’t love.”

As a lifelong member of the outdoors community I can say we could do with a little growth. And the first thing I’d like to see us do, as a community is to be more transparent about what it means to get outdoors. There will always be the athletes doing first ascents in wild places where no person has ever been. But that doesn’t mean there isn’t also room for walking 100 feet down a trail and sitting on a warm rock in the sun. Or going on your first overnight trip. Or your first hike period. You don’t have to be outside at every opportunity, fair weather hikers are still hikers. It all counts. We should celebrate it all. 

By opening up the definition of what it means to be an outdoors person we will be rewarded with a more diverse community of folks who know that they have a place in the outdoors, who love these wild spaces. Because if you don’t know something, you can’t love it. And you won’t bother saving something you don’t love. And folks, this planet needs our love, needs saving. So let’s lower the standards of admission into the outdoors and let everybody in.

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